Welcome to Day 2 of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge!
Many of us have a love/hate relationship with the current state of our lives. There are some things that we enjoy and appreciate about our circumstances, but if we're honest with ourselves, there are some things we want to change about them, too. But before you can get clear about where and how you might improve, you need to have a good sense of where you are right now. You need to take an honest assessment of your current reality.
Many of us have a love/hate relationship with the current state of our lives. There are some things that we enjoy and appreciate about our circumstances, but if we're honest with ourselves, there are some things we want to change about them, too. But before you can get clear about where and how you might improve, you need to have a good sense of where you are right now. You need to take an honest assessment of your current reality.
The purpose of today's two-part exercise is twofold:
To force you to own up to exactly which areas you'd like to improve upon in your life.
To give you encouragement to build on what's already great about it.
Estimated Time to Complete: 60- 90 minutes
To complete this exercise, you will take an honest assessment of seven specific areas of your life:
Lifestyle (satisfaction with where you live/living environment, how you spend your leisure time these days)
Work (satisfaction with where you work right now, what you do to earn your living)
Education (satisfaction with your educational attainment to date - college, vocational school and other learning goals)
Finances (the current state of your budget/money management, salary, net worth, debt-to-income ratio)
Health (the current state of your mental, physical and spiritual health - mind, body, soul)
Family (the quality of your relationships with family members, siblings, children)
Relationships (the quality of your relationships with friends and romantic partners)
For each of these specific areas of your life, simply ask yourself two questions.
What do I LIKE about this area of my life?
What do I DISLIKE about it?
You can either write your responses in your Reset Notebook or print out the Life Assessment Worksheet below. Just print it out, write your answers and insert or paste into your Notebook.
Take Action and Reflect: When you're done, please share your honest life assessment with us in the comments! List some or all of your likes/dislikes for each area of your life and see how they compare with others in the challenge.
Wishing you lifelong happiness and success!
Lifestyle: I like that I am living on my own and taking care of myself by myself. (Independence) What I dislike about my lifestyle is the the fact that I don't use my leisre time to spend time with friends...I'm usually with Antoine or at home watching cartoons.
ReplyDeleteWork: I like that I LOVE my job. I am doing what I feel God has called me to do. What I dislike about my work is that sometimes I allow it to detract from other aspects of life (for example, my social life).
Education: I like that I have a plan for how I am going to obtain my Master's and Doctoral degrees. I know what degrees I want, where I'm going to get them from, and what I'm going to do once I get them. I dislike the idea of how much debt I'm going to be in to get them. :(
Finances: Ok. Here's the BIG one! I LIKE that I have a pay check. Shoot, I even like the size of my paycheck. But what I dislike about my finances is that I spend so much time worrying about paying bills and saving, that I neglect my personal needs. For example, I need new clothes but won't buy them because I can think of other things that I can spending that $100 on....
Health: I like that I am finally feeling that peace that surpasses all understanding...things that used to send me spiraling into depression make thank God and keep it moving with a smile. I dislike that I am too lazy to exercise. I have a gym membership that I pay $30 a month for and don't use.
Family: I love that my mother and I have gotten closer as I got older. We had some really tough times when I was growing up....it was just awful. I couldn't talk to her about anything....but thank God that has changed. She's not my best friend yet...but it's getting better.
Relationships: I LOVE(so much more than like) that I have found a man who sees and appreciates my worth as a woman...and as his partner. I didn't think there was anything that I could dislike....but I HATE the long-distance thing. I want him where I can get to him whenever I want to.
On a 1-10, 10 Being the highest
ReplyDeleteLifestyle: 8 I love where I live and the environment. I'm satisfied. Free time doesn't exist with my second job. I do wish my commute to work was shorter.
Work: 9 Very satisfied with where I work and what I'm doing. I do wish projects were more consistent.
Education: 8-9 Extremely happy with formal education to date. I am moderately happy with the degree of experience I have so far. I need more experience.
Finances: 4 Debt/Equity Ratio, let's just say I will be solvent in a few months. I am unpleased but working toward a goal. Money management can also be improved. I am pleased that I am very well paid.
Health:
Physical 8: I should lose weight to be heart healthy and overall stronger. I released myself from a $50/month gym membership. I would like to be physically stronger and tighter.
Mental Health 9: I love that my mind is clear sharp and very able to be at peace or 15 directions at any given time. It gives me strength. I wish that I could be almost like the guy in “Limitless.”
Family: 9 For the family that matters, truly I am highly satisfied. I wish I could see them a little more regularly. I love that they love me and respect me for me.
Relationships: 7 this was judged on the strength of relationships. This is the transitional period in my friends' and my life what I think is weak, maybe strong for where we all are in our lives. I love that they understand, trust and respect me. I wish I could see them a little more regularly.
Lifestyle: I am happy about my living situation. I have a loving brother who has allowed me to move in with him until I can provide for myself. I am currently unable to contribute to the bills due to the fact that I just found a job and am waiting to start. I dislike not being able to help out financially. My time, as of right now, is spent watching T.V, exploring the state that I live in, or hanging out with his friends until I develop my own.
ReplyDeleteWork: I haven't started yet. But I am really excited about having a job. I have been seriously praying for one and God heard me. I am thrilled about the experience that I will gain, and that a lot of my free time will be taken up. I enjoy having something meaningful to do each day.
Education: I am proud that I did receive a bachelor’s degree from college but I dislike that I lost some of my confidence during school. I began to beat myself down about everything because nothing seemed to be good enough. Not really sure if the degree I gained fits me but I am using it as a stepping stone to get where I truly want to be.
Finances: Just received a job and I am waiting to start. Not ready for the bills that I have to pay...
Health: Physically: I have began to work out again 6 times a week and am satisfied because it helps relieve my stress. I have been seeing a doctor for a while now about a sickness that I cannot clear up. It’s nothing major just irritating. Sure I’ll feel better soon.
Mentally: I feel as if I am draining myself. I have a constant need to prove to myself that I am capable of success. I always want to do better… I love my drive but I hate how it makes me feel sometimes.
Spiritually: I have always been strong in the Lord, but lately I find myself questioning him. He always answers so I have no doubt that things will work out for me. He gives me strength.
Family: I LOVE my family. They are who I look up to every day. They constantly comfort me, give me advice, and accept me for who I am and want to be. We have had some really hard time over the past years but by the grace of God, we always manage to make it through any difficult situation.
Relationships: I appreciate all of my friends. I am truly blessed to have the people that I have in my life. Since I moved, I do not get to see everyone as much as I would like to, but we continue to stay in touch. As for a romantic relationship, it is inexistent right now. I discovered that I do have trust issues which were developed a long time ago. I do believe that I will find the right mate but I have to build up myself first.
Lifestyle-I'm not the happiest with my current lifestyle. After deciding to go back to school full time, I also decided it would be best to have roommates, so I moved in with my friend and her sister. It's not the worst situation, and it's no reflection on them, but I'm accustomed to having my own place and full independence. I started a new job recently and will hopefully be able to change my situation soon.
ReplyDeleteWork-I absolutely love my new job. I work with people with disabilities. I feel like I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. It's a stepping stone, but it's a huge step in the right direction.
Education-I'm currently working on my masters and pursuing my passion. A doctorate is still up for debate because it is not necessary in my field, but I do still have some desire to have Ph.D behind my name. Still thinking about this one.
Finances-School has really changed my situation, or rather the decision to go back, but I'm taking back control of my finances. With the new job, things should be changing very soon. Working full time while getting my masters worries me, but my independence is important to me.
Health-I am nowhere near where I want to be weight wise or health wise. I need to start excercising for my health and my self image. It's really hard to find the motivation. Bottom line, I need to stop being lazy and just do it.
Mentally-I feel really good about my state of mind. I feel like I've found an inner peace that I'm working to strengthen. I'm figuring out how to block negative external influences and draw from my own inner joy and what truly makes me happy. Realizing I'm a little quirky and that's ok.
Spritually-I'm on a spiritual journey right now that my friends and family will probably not understand, but I'm going to continue until I find the answer/truth I seek.
Family-My family relationships are not the strongest. I love my family and I know they love me, but I don't relate to them very well. I never have. I often feel alienated. My relationship with my mother is very volatile. At times I wish to change it and at other times I don't care. My sister is the closest family I have and I adore her. She will she this when she posts :-)
Relationships- I have some wonderful friends who are always there for me & vice versa. I wish we lived closer, but I see them when I can. I also have a wonderful boyfriend who is showing me what if feels like to be truly appreciated. Our relationship is new and I hope it lasts. If we were to part ways next week, I would still be greatful for what he has shown me.
Lifestyle Honestly, I dislike where I live now. I want to live in another state. Moncks Corner is a little bigger than Branchville but I want bigger. I want to experience life and have some type of adventure. My leisure time is spent sleeping because I really do not have a hobby. I have been thinking of what I would like that hobby to be but I really do not know. Overall, I have content to stay here for a while but I am always looking to move.
ReplyDeleteWork I love how I earn my living. It is fun, creative, free, and life changing. Teaching helps me to fulfill my passion and purpose in life and inspire others.
Education (satisfaction with your educational attainment to date - college, vocational school and other learning goals) My ultimate goal is become some type of administrator of education. I really don’t want to be a principal. I am currently working on my masters and when I am done it is my plan to go get a second masters in administration.
Finances I have a lot of issues budgeting money but I don’t over spend. I would love to increase the amount of money I make. I have an ultimate goal for myself.
Health Over the past two years I have been working on my spiritual health. I am like a bobbin in the water. Sometimes I am floating and other times I am drowning, but I never sink. I realize that I am over weight and I take very small steps to change it. However I have never lost a bunch of weight but I want to. Sometimes I am disgusted with the way I look but I get over it with a piece of cake. I feel these two things weigh heavily on my mind lowering my mental health. I am slowly working on myself.
Family My relationship with my mother’s family is awesome. We are very close. However with my father’s family I am almost like a stranger. I did it to myself but that the way it is.
Relationships I wish that I could see my friends more often and spend more time with them. I have married to the love of my life so I am very content with that area of my life.
Lifestyle: What I like most about my lifestyle is that it is fairly conservative. I’m not out partying and getting myself into any trouble or situations that could cause me trouble but by some people’s standards, it would be considered boring. I don’t have much of a social life and I would like to be able to call my friends and just go out for a girl’s night out or maybe a girl’s weekend!
ReplyDeleteWork: I really enjoy my job because it allows me to do what I love: help people. Even though I’m not a nurse or a doctor, I’m still in a small way, impacting people’s lives. Unfortunately in my department, there isn’t much room for advancement without becoming a nurse which I don’t want to do.
Education: By no one’s fault but my own, my education is not complete, or at least where I would like it to be. I have procrastinated for the past 10 years and put off completing my degree which I hope to change in the near future.
Finances: Honestly my current states of finances are a mess!!! I am great at planning and budgeting but horrible at executing. I would also love to increase that amount of money I make.
Health: Being healthy is a continual journey for me. I know the things I NEED to do, but I am honestly just lazy about doing them. Tying into my finances, I pay for a gym membership that I don’t even use.
Family: Coming from such a small family growing up(me, my mom and my sister), marrying into such a large family was overwhelming but I learned very quickly that it was just more people to be there for you when you need them. I wish my relationship with my father was much stronger but I hope I can get to a place within myself that I can address my issues with him and move forward. Praying for the relationship with my mother to return to the way it used to be. Im not going to say much about my sister because I’ll start crying but just know that she is my rock and sometimes my will for living. Having her as a part of my life has kept me here plenty of days.
Relationships: Being married for only 3 years, my marriage is still fresh and is always a work in progress. Each day I learn how to be a better wife and step-mother.